As i haf been infuriatingly searching around for a place to move, the wonder-me still finds time to shop (always haf the time), eat, read cosmos, work on assignments, attend classes, eat, watch telly, wash my never-ending pile of "handwash clothes", search for jobs, eat
again, and...stay alive. At the end of each typical day, I still haf a morsel of sanity left to ponder about the griping issues of relationships and my depleting bank account. And here's what i thought, after deciding and debating for so long that I do agree with Cosmo in many ways about the six guy traits when it comes to relationships.
They dont dissect relationship details. Yeap, our obsession over details just burns us females out, whils the males are happily wondering what's next on telly. So the reason for some relationship blow-outs are ahem "our" constant habit of finding tiny dating flaws. We
should (observe the word "should") vow not to scrutinise and split hairs because all these overanalysis may seem like we're over-obsessive freaks who appear destructive in relationships.
They're not hellbent on being told that we love them. Heck! From my experience, it's been only one out of the lot. Dropping the L-word
is a major romantic milestone. But I guess there's a limit to demanding the love verbally all the time. As long as we keep reminding ourselves of all the nice shweet ways he's demonstrated his love for us, or me (which i think you shud take it up a notch huns), I wont start getting cranky. *fingers crossed* And the one thing at the end of the day, it's that the one out of the lot that truly loves you from his crazy twisted cold heart. *winks*
They make sex a priority. 'Nuff said. Very self-explanatory, no?
They can accept our flaws. Women often see men as a piece of clay that can be shaped into the perfect boyfriend. I guess it's the same for everyone else, but it prolly goes double for us ladies, why? Because we hafta constantly deal with immaturely developed males who do not appear to act their age. It's funny how there was an ongoing debate I read awhile ago on why God did not allow men to develop mentally FIRST then the rest of their body parts. *chuckle* Anyhoo, back to the point, we girls hafta begin to accept a chap for who he is, and not as an extreme makeover waiting to happen. Some girls just goto the extreme on wanting to change the boy even though they appear to be "ok". Suggestions and comments do not hurt, but the male has to also understand that you are trying to help, and not just some obsessive freak geared to make a new person. I love my hubbeeschoobs, but there are times when he just drives me NUTS and I mean on the brink of insanity, and I guess ditto for me, soo...because therapy is too expensive, we c-o-m-p-r-o-m-i-s-e. Right huns?
They just get over it. Even the most perfect couple will occasionally clash. While guys generally get pissed off and let it go, women are more likely to internalise their anger - which explains why we think some guys are psycho-ed when they can pretend nothing happened the next day. So, let it go! Speaking from personal experience with the male, it's not a good idea to "sleep on it", maybe not in most cases, that is. It's alot better to get it out of the system and/or drop it if it's insignificant. It's not letting him off the hook, but it's also doing yourself a favor. :)
They dont blab to their mates. This, i thought was pretty funny, or sorta. We girls luRve to chat, and i mean, shit..blab and blab forever. We exchange sex tips, raunchy getaways, bedroom stories and wat nots, but men might in actual fact find all these "sharing" a violation of trust. Some might, some might not. But hey guess wat, we feel the same way too! Editors these days just underestimate the potential of male bitchiness.
If only women didn't have to deal with the mood swings that come in tandem with fluctuating levels of oestrogen and progesterone. We are after all, part of the cosmic divine. Again, I may yet be suffering from mild paranoia. :p
